How To Have The Life You Want

“The more you work on the things you can control,
the more the things you can’t control work.”
-Justin Rogers

This truth punched me right in the face recently. I mean, to be honest, responsibility always seemed like a painful lesson in my life, to be avoided at all costs. I can just write and work from home and then I don’t have to be responsible, after all. Right? (Err, wrong.)

Responsibility is absolutely crucial for any job, working from home or from a cubicle, it doesn’t make a difference. I would even venture to say that it’s more important when you work from home, because, hey, you gotta be your own boss; you’re responsible for getting your butt to work, for meeting deadlines, for finishing what you start, and getting things done!

However, responsibility and it’s importance in life goes much further than your job. It reaches into every moment of each and every day and asks one simple question: “Hey you, are you doing what you can, or are you hiding and waiting?”

“When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.”

I have learned that when we decide to respond to life, when we develop Response Ability, and we take care of all the things set before us — all the things we can control — that life responds right back, in epic proportions.

In Roy Posner’s book The Miraculous Phenomenon of Life Response, he tells of an experience he had when he was completely out of work and sinking financially, after every attempt to find work was exhausted and things seemed hopeless. One morning, while sitting at his computer and generally moping, he had the sudden thought that he should clean his cluttered refrigerator, as it was long overdue. Somehow he talked himself into getting up and doing it, although he didn’t feel like doing a thing at the time. He got down on his knees and cleaned it spotless, even going so far as to organize everything within the refrigerator perfectly. This grueling task took him almost two hours to complete.

And then, at the exact moment that he closed the refrigerator door and thought to himself, “Well, I did it!” — wouldn’t you know it? His phone rang. It was a previous employer, who was calling to offer him months of freelance work that he so desperately needed.

Now, cleaning a refrigerator may seem trivial and generally inconsequential, but here’s the thing: It’s not. Roy worked on something he could control, and as a result, the thing he couldn’t control immediately worked for him.

Remember these words: What you appreciate, you attract more of.

Appreciation is not just an attitude. It is action. It is taking care of what we’ve been given. It is keeping our house clean, our work-space in order, our minds sharp, our responsibilities handled, and our lives in check.

Clean your house, and success will stop by for a visit. Get your affairs in order, and opportunities will expand before you. Appreciate what you have, with attitude and action.

This lesson alone, applied, will change your life forever.

What are your thoughts on this? Any experiences you’d like to share or any advice you’d like to throw in? I’d love to hear from you! Be nice! 🙂

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Comments 1

  1. Joseph Alberty

    Wow, I’ve just been noticing this taking place in my life and then “Stumbled Upon” this post. (Is that the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon?) For me it has just been owning and taking responsibility for the things I can control that has led to an overall sense of well being, as well as an uptick in sales. I didn’t even have to clean the refrigerator! I’m going to subscribe and get the book. Thanks.

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